As any working parent knows, life is a balancing act.
Between work, playdates, practices, yardwork, making dinner, helping with homework, we’re just trying to keep things going. Life with a toddler isn’t any different. Just add changing diapers/potty training in the mix.
Luckily for me I have an amazing husband. He cooks better than I do (however, I still bake much better than he does). He does laundry and cleans. Most relationship today need to be a balance. Gone are the days of male & female roles. Today, you make dinner and I’ll do the dishes (a favorite trade off in our household).
So I thought I’d share 5 tips that I use when work or home life start to weigh me down.
Let it go!
Take a page from Elsa and Anna. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Your bathroom didn’t get cleaned today? Let it go and get to it tomorrow. A new recipe you tried didn’t turn out? Let it go and try a new one. Your child throws a tantrum in the middle of the store? Let it go. Other parents have been there. They understand and have more sympathy than you think. The more we let stuff go, the less stressed we’ll be. (Now if I could just get that song out of my head.)
Talk With Your Partner
Communication is key in any relationship, especially when you have a child involved. Add 2 working parents to the mix and it can be hard to remember who is going where or doing what. I am usually the one making arraignments for doctor’s appointments, grocery shopping, and child care, and sometimes forget to clue my hubby in to what’s going on (like leaving the car seat at home only to have my husband realize when he is already at our son’s daycare). Talk about the big things but don’t forget the little ones.
Accept You Won’t be Superwoman
You think you have everything handled. You are killing it at work (covering a great story), making plans for the weekend, everything is on track, and then daycare calls to say your kid is sick. While you’d like everything to stop, sometimes work can’t. You have to finish the story. The sooner you accept you can’t be superwoman and be everywhere at every single second of the day for your child or your job the better. This goes back to #2, talk with your partner. My husband rushed over to get our little one and stayed with him while I had a late night at the station. Yes I felt guilty, but I knew he was taken care of. Remember sometimes it takes a village to raise a child (or in this case a really awesome dad).
Make Time For Me (& Don’t Feel Guilty)
Get that long overdue haircut. Go out for a drink with the girls. See a movie with your spouse. Go for a run without the jogging stroller (you won’t believe how much quicker your pace is). We all need time to refocus and regroup. Believe me everyone will benefit from it.
Remember it won’t be like this for long.
As the mom of a toddler I keep reminding myself to enjoy every moment because he won’t be this little for long. Before I know it, my little guy will be going to school, making new friends, and not wanting to spend time with mom. Yes the days may be long but they’re worth it. I’d rather have that extra cup of coffee in the morning than miss out on this phase of life.